“America is Food Heaven” – A Danish Immigrant’s story

Kim Aronson’s life changed twice. First, when he met and fell in love with Rosy, a vivacious American on sojourn in Denmark, second, when he visited her large, Jewish family who introduced him to the delights of American dining in Chicago.

Kim and I are sitting in his sunny Berkeley backyard, sipping bubbly water and nibbling pumpkin seeds, but we could just as easily be dishing his Danish food heritage at local eateries like May Flower Chinese or Taste of the Himalayas, because the variety of ethnic restaurants in the Bay Area and America in general is one of things Aronson loves best about his new country.

With his boyish face, Aronson doesn’t look his 49 years. Until his move here in 1997, he lived in his native Copenhagen and didn’t travel much. Food was not a big focus in his life.

“I came from a poor family. My dad was a mail carrier. Our food was simple. My mom’s cooking was all I knew. She cooked things like potatoes in brown sauce, meatballs and rice and curry sauce, maybe some pork. If there was a vegetable on the plate, it was just a tiny garnish. Sometimes we had the same soup for 3 days straight. Then on the third day she would make pancakes or have ice cream for dessert to kind of make up for having the same soup again.”

“Breakfast was very simple: raw oats with cold milk and lots of sugar — like muesli but without the nuts and raisins. When I was 5 or 6 we got corn flakes. That was something new and exciting.”

“Lunch was smørrebrød – the typical Danish open-faced sandwiches. Two slices of dark rye bread, cut in halves and topped with liver spread, salami, egg, maybe fig jam or a thin piece of chocolate. We had these special divided boxes that I took to school; they stacked so that the open-faced sandwiches didn’t get smeared.”

“In middle school they opened a canteen. Every day while I was eating my cold sandwiches, I could smell the melting cheese in the toasted ham and cheese sandwiches. We just couldn’t afford them. Once in a great while, I scraped together enough money to buy one. I dreamt of those sandwiches my whole childhood.”

“I never ate out at a restaurant until I was 15, it was a pizza place I went to with a friend.”

At 16, Aronson moved away from home, rented a room, got a job, and ate canned food and hot dogs. Later, when he worked at a school he bought lunch there. He worked as a special educator with emotionally disturbed children for 17 years. But on the side, he always did art, photography and graphic design.

In 1992, at an art therapy conference in northern Denmark he met Rosy, an attractive American with dark hair and a warm smile. They hit it off and lived together for 5 years during which time Rosy began to broaden Kim’s culinary horizons. “She made me the best salads and introduced me to vegetarian and Indian restaurants in Copenhagen”

Rosy, who was fluent in Danish, was happy in Denmark and wanted to stay there, which they might have done, were it not for a food epiphany that occurred on Kim’s first trip to America to meet Rosy’s family. He was entranced from the get-go.

Food, Glorious Food…

“The first time I came to Chicago, Rosy’s parents and sister picked us up at the airport and took us straight to a restaurant. Her sister ordered a humongous salad. It was so amazing to me, that salad was enough for 6 people. More salad than I had eaten in two years. Look at that, I thought, I’m sold! And you could take some home for later. You could also customize your plate and get things just the way you want them, like asking for tomatoes instead of potatoes or salad dressing on the side.

Kim, usually a quiet, measured speaker, gets visibly excited remembering these food revelations.

“Plus, you get free refills on coffee; that would never happen in Denmark. Rosy’s family ate out all the time. It wasn’t that expensive, so you could. It blew my mind. Ten people going out for dinner, all sharing and tasting each other’s food. Her relatives were friendly and open and actually socialized around food. I remember lots of people sitting around with food as the social center. And they talked politics. It was exciting and inspiring. My family didn’t talk politics. Dinner was not a time to communicate, just an occasion to quickly stuff your face so you won’t be hungry for a while.”

“In America, the food was different too, more diverse, with more access to all these different cuisines. In Chicago, Rosy’s family loved that I was curious about food, so they took me to Jewish delis, Chinese and Italian Restaurants, and The Cheesecake Factory. I was in heaven! That’s a big part of my love for America. I had never experienced never-ending Indian buffets before. I got introduced to lots of different cultures in America. It was so exciting. When I was growing up in Denmark, there weren’t many people from different cultures. Even the Italian restaurants were owned by Danes.”

“One thing I found funny was when they took me to a pancake house for brunch. In Denmark, we never eat pancakes for breakfast or brunch. Always for dessert after dinner.”

“And the grocery stores had wide aisles and so many different kinds of cereal! I embraced it. Then I discovered hot fudge sundaes. I was ready to move.”

So Kim and Rosy moved to Chicago. Kim was 35. Two years later, in 1999, they moved to Berkeley.

“The Bay Area is different. I feel like a Berkeleyite more than an American or a Dane. I identify with the values, the social consciousness, the creativity, the way diversity is embraced here.”

Homesick for Danish Food

It wasn’t until about 8 years after his move to the US that Kim started to miss certain Danish foods. ”It took me years to get used to the butter here. Denmark has better butter, cheese, Danish pastry and cinnamon rolls. They are sweet in a different way, more crispy. I never eat Danish pastries here. And I missed the hot dog stands that are everywhere in Denmark.”

Kim, who established a popular on-line Danish dating service, travels to Denmark once or twice a year. “When I go back now, I always have smørrebrød tartare, with ground raw meat, eggs, capers and onions. “

There are certain traditional Danish holiday foods that Kim wanted to enjoy again, too. During the entire month of December, Danes host gløgg and æbleskiver get-togethers.

Anna: I was lucky to attend Kim and Rosy’s December party last year and wrote about it.


Kim’s gløgg (warm, mulled wine) packs quite a punch, thanks to the added raisins and almonds that he soaks overnight in a combination of vodka and port. He mixes red wine with a bottled gløgg drink mix sold at Nordic House in Berkeley.


“I’m lucky to have the Danish store close-by. (Really it’s called Nordic House, but it’s owned by a Dane). I go about once a month. More in November and December when I have to get special things for Christmas, but it’s crowded then. I get Skole Kridt licorice candy, roasted onions, brown sauce, remoulade for roast beef and ham.”

candy that looks like school chalk

“I do make special food for Christmas Eve. It’s a stretch – I’m not a big chef – The traditional meal is crispy pork ribs, caramelized potatoes and gravy, red cabbage. (But we don’t do pork).”

classic Danish dinner

Cross-Cultural Marriage

“We’re spiritual, not religious. And we respect each other’s culture. We often have Shabbat dinner at friends’, with the challah and chicken. I’ve learned about the Jewish traditions, the kugel and latkes. I actually make some mean latkes. Really Jewish food is not that far from Danish food. We have a lot in common (like the herring and the sweet noodle dish.)”

Happy Danes?

Besides his Danish online dating service, Kim has worked as a web designer, but his new passion is filmmaking, which he is currently studying at BCC. (He has made several short films for Berkeleyside.)

“My latest project is to make a full-length feature film about Danes in America, called The Happiest Immigrants.   There were a couple of recent studies that rated Danes as the happiest people in the world.

But I don’t think Danes are really that happy; there’s still suicide and [mental] illness. Maybe when they answered the survey, they meant that they were ‘satisfied’ because they just don’t have big expectations. Perhaps they didn’t want to say negative things? Danish people are proud of their cozy little Denmark. (Coziness is a big thing in Denmark) We have a word for that, hygge. I think it’s the feeling of being the butter in the center of a bowl of oatmeal.

Note: This is the second in a series of immigrants’ stories told through a food lens. The first one was “Food Makes Friends” – a Turkish Immigrant’s Story

                               Read about Anna’s obsession with smørrebrød here

About Anna Mindess

A sign language interpreter by day; a food writer by night. Endlessly fascinated by looking at the world through the eyes of different cultures -- and tasting its variety. Anna lives in Berkeley, California with her husband and daughter. Author of READING BETWEEN THE SIGNS and now a freelance writer for KQED's Bay Area Bites, Oakland Magazine and other publications.
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2 Responses to “America is Food Heaven” – A Danish Immigrant’s story

  1. mango lassie says:

    I really enjoy your stories and the stories you tell about others.
    What dish is pictured in the last image?

    • Anna Mindess says:

      Thanks so much for reading! Ahhh…that was a wonderful smørrebrød I had at Ida Davidsen’s in Copenhagen, with silky salmon and shrimp from Greenland. There’s a piece of dark rye bread hiding underneath the salmon, but the fish is draped over it so you can’t see it. That’s how smørrebrød is meant to be made; the bread is important (that’s the brød) but you’re not supposed to be able to see it for the mounded toppings. But I almost didn’t get to eat this sandwich… the whole story is at http://cultureandfood.wordpress.com/2010/01/10/danish-smørrebrød/

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